Failure is just part of the process

We are not sure of so many things in life but one thing we can all agree upon is that FAILURE IS NEVER A NICE FEELING TO EXPERIENCE. Apart from being painful in itself, it brings with it more negative emotions like disappointment in oneself, feelings of sadness , worry, fear of more and worse failure, embarrassment, anger, feeling like a loser, depression and many more.

These feelings can all be tormenting and no one in their right mind would surely wish such torture upon themselves. But failing is part of life and in as much as we would love to avoid it, we also have to learn how to deal with it.

Failure is part of the process. You have to lose your fear of failing. People who never fail are those that never try. You have to fail, in fact you need to fail. You’ve got to get it wrong, to get it right. You learn nothing from winning, you only learn from your failures and that’s why you need to fail.

Failure analysis

Despite all the lessons we learn from our failures, it doesn’t change the fact that failure is always an unpleasant thing to have to deal with. It’s always like despite all the preparations we can make to handle our disappointment better, when it finally arrives, it still hits so bad and hurts so bad.

The feelings of inadequacy, hopelessness, anger, our best not being enough, disappointment in oneself are never as easy to deal with as we would expect.

But here’s the good news, Failure is temporary, it doesn’t mean you can’t make it nor does it mean you will never succeed or are weaker or inferior compared to those who succeed. It is not final- it doesn’t have to be.

You don’t fail unless you quit.

You have to fail at something so many times that you become good at it.

Yes you may have been beaten but don’t stay on the ground too long. Don’t grieve forever or worse lose hope that you will ever make it in life. Failing is part of the process and it too, like all else, shall pass.

We must accept finite disappointment , but we must never lose infinite hope.

Martin Luther King Jr

Once you understand and accept that failure is part of life, and you have to fail to succeed, you won’t beat yourself up so much when you fail.

TRYING REALLY DOES COUNT FOR SOMETHING !

And one thing I realized is that sometimes people are really doing great or doing okay but because they haven’t really hit their goals or are comparing themselves to other people, that makes them to feel like failures in life. At such times i encourage people to remember that they are trying and giving life their best ( or at least they think they are ) and that counts for something.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Theodore Roosevelt

The greatest test of courage is to bear defeat without losing hope.

Unknown

OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS OF US

Sometimes not meeting other people’s expectations of us can cause us to feel like we have failed them, or even failed ourselves but it doesn’t have to be like that.

Robert Anthony said it best, “In life you will always be a failure in someone’s eyes, you may never get the approval you seek, you simply can’t please everyone so please yourself, accept your back ground and enjoy who you are.”

Maybe your boss shouted at you at work, or your superior told you you are not good enough and that has been putting you down. Usually it’s the negative remarks we get from the people we look up to, our superiors or even our loved ones that hurt the most- that make our failure even harder to deal with.

But always remember that the FACT THAT YOU ARE GIVING IT YOUR BEST- THAT COUNTS FOR SOMETHING.

And incase someone has failed, maybe your workmates or even people below you in the workspace, it may even be your children or siblings or friends give them a word of encouragement. The fact that they failed doesn’t mean you should scold them, failure in itself is hard enough an emotion to deal with – be supportive.

A word of encouragement during failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.

anonymous

FAILURE CATALYSTS

• A bad attitude is the number one guarantee to set you on the path of failure. Maintain a positive attitude towards your work, life and in all aspects in which you desire to succeed.
• Procrastination and inconsistency are the fertilizers that lead to failure slowly but surely.
• Don Wilder and Bill Rechin said, “Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.” Be sure not to be the one to nail them.
• Laziness is the fuel used to drive the car to failing. Be sure not to be the driver to that vehicle.
• Impatience is the necessary ingredient of failure. Remember you don’t fail unless you quit.
• Jealousy is poison . No man is a complete failure until he starts to dislike men who succeed or is jealousy of their accomplishments.

• Bill Cosby remarked,” I don’t know the secret to success but the key to failure is to try to please everyone.”

So do what is right and in your best interests for only you will truly know and appreciate the hard work it took to get you where you are.

After all you’ll be damned if you do and damned if you don’t.

Successful people are successful because they have failed so many times but have ALWAYS gotten up. Winners dispose off failure faster than other people and that’s what makes them winners.

How to overcome fear of failure

Fear is a very terrifying emotion but we can learn how to deal with it and hence enjoy our lives a little more. Here are a few tips to help you overcome fear of failing in life and for a detailed account check this out.

• Fear is only mental and you are gonna have to overcame it by first dealing the fearful thoughts that you have in your mind. Correcting your thoughts and thinking positive and optimistically is the first step to beating fear.

• ” What if i win?” ask yourself this question each time you are scared of failing. Remind yourself often of the successful results of trying, these pleasant thoughts brought about by this thinking will help you go for success and overcome the fear of not making it in whatever you choose to go after in life.

• Understand that you must first fail at something before you can become good at it. Once you accept this important fact then the fear of failure won’t keep you from going where you would have won.

I’ve failed over and over again in my life and that’s why i succeed.

Michael Jordan

• Look at the bigger picture. Understand that failure is for your good in the long run. At the present moment you may not understand why you are failing despite giving life your best but thinking of the bigger picture will give you peace in your heart.

Life must be teaching you a valuable lesson you will need in the future. Nothing may make sense to you now but it will in the future. For now trust and have faith it will work out for the best.

Remember the words of Steve Jobs, he said ” You can’t connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust the dots will somehow connect in the future.”

That means you are always going to be walking into the dark. You are always going to be walking into a place you’ve never been – into the unknown and all you can carry with you is trust that things will work out for the best.

• If you prayed and asked God for the best then there’s no reason to believe he will give you anything less than the very best. Trust HIM.

How to deal with failure.

The journey of overcoming failure starts with first overcoming the fear of failure. But once we overcome this fear and still fail we need to deal with overcoming the failure itself and keep pushing for success.

Failure is never final unless you allow it, it’s just part of the process.

Until you make the decision and quit, you haven’t really failed at whatever it is you have been trying.

So here are a few tips to help you cope with this temporary failure and keep you pushing for more satisfactory results out of life;

• Pray to God or whatever higher power you believe in to give you the strength to learn from your mistakes and move on. And then trust that you have received that strength.

• Accept that you have been defeated this time but also don’t quit. Try again.

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

Thomas Edison

• Remember it’s not the last stroke that breaks the wood but the combination of all the previous strokes.

Mistakes are the greatest lessons in one’s life.

Erechu Patrick Jr Pato

• Once you learn something from your failures, you haven’t really failed. At least not completely, next time you will be able to start over more intelligently.

A Chinese saying goes,” To know the road ahead, ask those coming back.” Only he that has travelled the road knows where the holes are deep.

• Learn from the failures of others and also take counsel from those you have failed- who else is better equipped with the Don’ts than they are?

Benjamin Disrael said,” Patience is the necessary ingredient of genius.”

• Keep pushing, don’t quit or you will never know how close to success you were.

GET UP AND TRY ONE MORE TIME THAN YOU HAVE FAILED. AND KEEP TRYING UNTIL YOU GET THAT WHICH YOUR HEART DESIRES.

Lemme leave you with the words of Booker T. Washington ,” Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles he has overcome.”

One thing is guaranteed, if you keep going every time you hit a roadblock, one day there will surely be no more roadblocks to hit and until that day, keep going!